Sunday, December 29, 2013

For the person who has everything


For the person who has everything.
We have so much and yet still cant find a balance of possession and happiness. Maybe where we are looking is not where we can find the satisfaction of the soul. Jesus gives us another direction to follow and another path to explore. At the feet of Jesus we find the perfect gift for the person who has everything.

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For the person who has everything

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Thursday, December 26, 2013

Celebrate Christ

Reclaiming the spirit of Christmas can be difficult. Forces are pulling at us from every side in an attempt to compel us to worship; possessions, positions, and people. If we re-frame the conversation from a me centered to a we centered approach we could regain the wonder of worship and celebrate a Child called Christ. Celebrate Christ

Sunday, December 8, 2013

Tackling Race Head-On To Expose A 'Dreadful Deceit'

Jacqueline Jones NPR interview
this is an interview from NPR with Jacqueline Jones concerning race. there a quite a few things contained therein that are troubling. But first i want to share my brother (Joshua Missouri) response to the piece  
Race is a social construct, but it is no less real than religion, or social status. Race is real because an over wheeling swath of society believes in differentiating people based on skin color. It’s not American, see Rwanda, it is absolutely European. Which I suppose is why women were to be fair and white or why Sicilians are believed to be darker and therefor less civilized. It is our failing for not seeking truth and our forefathers for allowing it to be distorted - Joshua Missouri 
I will be posting my response to the interview a bit later 

Friday, December 6, 2013

Scandal: the suffering and endurance model of YOLO

     Reflecting on the episode last night i must say that i was troubled. the immersive world that Scandal has created Parry's between the models of suffering and endurance and a morphed redemptive model.  from a pure classical approach it is a recognition of seedtime and harvest. Quinn being seduced by gratuitous violence falls prey to the wilds of her own imagination. 

     The seed is Quinn wading into the world of violence... the harvest is eventually the violence that we glorify is the violence that overtakes us. 

She desires to test the waters of the violence that has been dealt to her on others. the irony is she has a Stockholm syndrome like affinity for Huck and his tormented life.  But lets not forget Quinn was a baby to this world of fetishized violence from season 1 to now we see how violence like any other behavior is learned embraced as a necessary evil and then fetishiezed. 

Living in a world where we are born into pain. taught that pain and violence is necessary and when the mind is conditioned to believe that pain is a reality pain will become the obsession . This is the world that faithful people live in. 

One year ago 26 children and adults died in a school shooting in newtown Connecticut. And one year later we have not found the courage to pass assault weapon legislation's. since that shooting we have had 2 additional mass shootings and yet lack courage to effect change.

This is the world faithful people live.
Catholic priest James Allison suggest that in this world of memetic violence Jesus directing us toward another way to be. Allison suggest that the crucifixion is more than payment but a paradigm shift.  A way of mindfulness versus the human proclivity for revenge and pain. Jesus says from the cross... "forgive them father for they know not what they do"...

Below is a link to Exploring the New Paradigm: Giraud and the Christianity of the 21st
 Century

Friday, October 4, 2013

The problem with my own personal Jesus

     One of the issues that beguile me is the idea of personal theology that only influences public policy when it accommodates your particular parties’ talking points. When my conservative brothers and sisters drag out the big moral 3 of; Gay marriage, abortion , and access to contraceptives with the idea that these encapsulate all of evangelical theology i get a little uneasy.  The Big 3 have been the moralistic talking points of conservatives for the last 30 years. Not just for conservative evangelicals but conservative Catholics as well. What we lose in the fetishzation of the big 3 is the message of the Gospel. 
 
     It’s easy to scapegoat "baby killers" and "homosexuals" as enemies of Christ and persist that we are followers of Christ because you enjoy hetero normative orientation. But when it comes to the reciprocative nature of this statement "as you do to the least of these you do unto me" we might find that we are not following the Christ of the gospels but rather a "christ" of our existential crisis.  It’s easier to run to the cubby holes of racist, misogynistic and homophobic certitude rather than cast our nets into the muck that is uncertainty.  Our uncertainty is that we don't always know what Jesus would do confronted with all the challenges that modernity brings ... but we are still tasked to do what he told us to do "love your neighbor as yourself."

     How do we construct an ideological framework where it’s ok to cut money for welfare but find money for warfare? How can we gather the political will to shut down the entire government in pursuit of restricting access to health care for others? How do we keep arguing about legitimate rape and magical uteri that only procreate with sperm produced from consensual sex? How are the people who use such language able to call themselves Christians? What part of the Christian ethic is the NRA and conservatism Christian value aligned? When children die at school and we are crippled by moral impotence to take action; are we still suffering little children to come unto him?  How can we take part in a corrupt system and still use the moniker "in God we trust"? 
    
     We are able to hide behind a form of godliness because we don't see these social ills as a reflection of our faithfulness to God. We don't see participation in corrupt systems as sin. We don't understand sin as a failure to provide comfort and care; we see sin as a failure of personal morality. As long as we are personally moral and treat our immediate connections "right" than we are living a faithful life.  If we have possessions and others do not that’s not a reflection of sinfulness but rather a reflection of our ability to make prudent decisions. (Whatever you do don't think about AIG, Bear Stearns, so forth so on we all know what great decisions they made) The ability to be callous and Christian is a byproduct of the privatization of Jesus.  When you privatize Jesus you abdicate the Christian responsibility to seek the peace and prosperity of the city. 
  
     When you take the walk; take the preachers hand and take Jesus into your heart. We say "Jesus i make you my personal lord and savior and i trust you to guide Me." i am an absolute proponent for "personal decisions for Christ" but we are consistently missing a step the point of salvation is not for me to have a narcissistic boutique experience with God. I am not just having a concierge experience with God where he desires the best for only me. My faithfulness to God is both a private and public declaration and demonstration. 
   Faithfulness is a private affirmation.  Faithfulness is not a function of prudent budget decisions that brutalize the poor but bail out the rich. Faithfulness has to at least reflect an Christological ethic to still be considered Christian. I mean you have to at least look like you are trying to follow Jesus right?  You can't use piss poor biblical scholarship to justify an ethic that is antithetical to Christ teachings.  You cannot say that cutting food stamps is empowerment, but bailing out Fannie Mae is improvement. Such a fallacy is a clear sign that the Jesus that we profess is not the Jesus we proclaim.  Somehow, somewhere somebody has been lying on my Jesus framing him as a savior to my soul but not a savior to society. 
    
     Following Jesus is not about pulling myself up by my own bootstraps, but pushing somebody else up so they might be what he would have them to be. Following Jesus is not an experiment in self-actualization but rather an experiment in inclusion. How much room can i make for the existence of others?  There my friend is the fly in the ointment; Christ is not creating an environment of homogeneity but rather heterogeneity.  My suspicion is that God is far more diverse than the blue eyed Jesus from granny's picture in the living room. I also suspect that the kingdom ethic that we tote around like a bruised banana, is far more public than saying prayers on the capitol steps, and praying that God repeal Obamacare. 
    
     Since Benny Hinn's dance card is full it’s probably helpful that people can make it to the doctor if they can't make it to the crusade.  Here is an idea lets have Ted Cruz whip out the EVOO (extra virgin olive oil) and go from hospital to hospital making it rain healings on the poor and disenfranchised. As a matter of fact let’s bring out Sarah Palin and have her pray over some knotted prayer cloths and send them to all the residents of the states that have the fewest residents with health insurance coverage.  Ok let’s try this ... next Sunday lets have no preaching ... just blood pressure and diabetes screenings. I promise you the altar call would look vastly different when you set up I.V's in the pulpit.  

My problem with the idea of "your own personal Jesus"

 1) Personal Jesus is content to heal you and let your neighbor die and you are ok with that. 
2) Personal Jesus is far more interested in blessing you privately than making you an agent for systemic change
3) Personal Jesus seems to Love white men most of all 
4) Personal Jesus is really not "into" caring for others
5) Personal Jesus loves huge buildings 
6) Personal Jesus has way too many benefits for buildings but never any offerings for the afflicted
7) Personal Jesus does not believe in global warming in fact he likes the temp just fine
8) Personal Jesus is an uber capitalist 
9) Personal Jesus not only Pulled himself up by his own bootstraps he also made the bootstraps 
10) Personal Jesus apparently was just kidding about the whole "orphan widow and stranger” thing

I don’t have a problem with Personal Jesus being all up in your heart but I also want his heart to be a reflection of what we do with our hands. But that might hurt a little!

Sunday, July 7, 2013

I've Never seen it

We delivered this message at the fifth sunday fellowship for the Augusta District . I was so glad to be in fellowship with Dr. Tribble and his wonderful wife. There are two things the righteous will never have to worry about loneliness and lack. I hope you are blessed at the hearing of this word! Happy Sunday !

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Paula,Paula, Paula


Much of the rancor concerning Paula Deen using the word Nigger is misplaced.  Yes I used the word Nigger in a sentence and it looks as ugly as it is. It’s a filthy, nasty word used to channel the emotional subjugation of 400 plus years of slavery as an institution.  Slavery, the one institution that Americans just can’t seem to process as a reality of this our sacred union. When I was growing up I used to hear a song with lyrics that said “and I’m proud to be an American where at least I know I’m free”.  Free, the idea that we all have equal rights and opportunities.  Let’s just stop, the vast majorities of Americans are not free and will never be free.  And if you think the constitution makes you free than ask the state legislature of Texas why were congressional districts redrawn over the last ten years? Answer, to disenfranchise the Latino vote. And the Supreme Court thinks that times are so different than they were 50 years ago that we no longer need law that protect us against voting violations.  Slavery was never abolished it was institutionalized, so you don’t have to use the word Nigger to put people of color and poor people in their place.  Yes I said it poor people are victims as well; of a classism so brutal that the losses from this current recession may not be overcome for at least 50 years. Former middle class Americans are in the same unemployment offices as the people they would have openly called niggers 50 years ago.
                People are mad that Paula Deen used the word Nigger. I’m not mad she said it; I’m mad because we want her to apologize for something she meant to say.  You’re mad that Paula Deen used the word Nigger twenty years ago. I’m mad that she treats her workers like Niggers twenty years later.  It’s easier to address a single act of incivility than to address the systemic incivility of American culture.  Let me make sure I got this right you have a problem with people saying the word Nigger but you’re totally fine with being treated like a nigger?  To have the audacity to be offended by an open expression of an ignorant person is a fool’s error. She is telling you exactly how she feels about people from other races she thinks that people from different races are not human she believes that they are animals.  And Ms. Deen you have the right to feel that way but you do not have the right to treat people in an inhumane manner. Your business practices need to reflect your market reality rather than your racial delusion.
                You don’t have to like that she said it, but the reality is she said it. Now being from Tuscaloosa where the KKK has a parade every year to this day, I can say I like my racism straight up; all killer no filler. If you’re going to be a racist serve it up like whiskey, straight up. What I have a problem with is this smoke and mirrors game that we play with ourselves making the issue the word rather than the institutionalization of the word.  It’s bigger than just having your feelings hurt because somebody used the sacred cow of racism. When your vote is disenfranchised by the redistricting of maps that is the institutionalization of the word Nigger. When you cannot live in certain neighborhoods that is the institutionalization of the word. When there is no fresh produce in a three mile radius that is the institutionalization of the word. When you make up 12 percent of the population at whole but a majority of the prison census; that’s the institutionalization of the word.
                When schools are closed in minority communities first that’s the institutionalization of the word. When men and women are in jail for possession for something that is legal in two states that’s the institutionalization of the word.  When charter schools play shell games with educational funds that’s the institutionalization of the word.  Access to PLUS funds where cut and the black community didn't say a word. The rules for the administration of subsidized loans where changed black folks didn't say a word.  Subsidized loans were stripped for graduate students black folks didn't say a word. The interest rate doubled for student loans, black folks didn't say a word.  But when it is discovered that Paula Deen used the word Nigger you are up in arms?  500 Homicides in Chicago last year where was the outrage?  184 Homicides this year where is the outrage? Again its smoke and mirrors! It’s a distraction as long as you are fine with being treated like you are ignorant than you give systemic approval to be treated as such.  The soft underbelly of African American society is that we still feel as if there are two kinds of black people. Black people and Niggers and as long as the Black people are upwardly mobile and can move away from the Niggers the world is right as rain.  That is a level of hypocrisy that is unpalatable.  
                Every time the disdainful word Nigger is uttered by a person of non-African Descent we have to call Rev. Jackson, Al Sharpton, and have a two hour program on CNN.  Let me be clear I want God to Change the hearts of every racist and prejudice person. Do you hear me???? Change their hearts, change their actions change their ways!  What good is it if Paula Deen never uses the word Nigger again but persists upon treating people of color as Niggers?  What Good is it if you removed the word colored from the water fountain but create schools systems separately for black and white children?  What good is it to remove George Wallace from the Entrance of the University of Alabama, but replace him with legislation that restricts higher education opportunities for people of color?   
                I hope Paula Deen offended you. Offended you so much you sell all that good cookware to me for cheap. I hope Paula Deen Offended you so much she distracts you from Lawsuit that female managers brought against Wal-Mart because they were not being treated fairly. I hope Paula offended you so much that you forget all about the conditions of the workers in the overseas factories that supply your Target. I hope you are offended! I want you offended.  And after you get all of that offense out, ask yourself “what did that offense do?” 
                And when we come down off of our “I got offended” high, take the offense and make change.  If you’re so offended create a scholarship to send one of those black boys that works in Paula’s kitchen to culinary school. If your so offended join the NAACP and tell them to stop marching and burying the word Nigger, and tell them every day a little boy or girl dies in Chicago and a march can’t fix that. Tell the SCLC to take the chains off the doors and be a force for systemic good and not a relic for religiosity. If you’re so offended move back to your communities of color and improve the property value with your presence and your work.
And for Ms. Deen who would rather I dress like a servant at a pre lynching party …. This might hurt a little
1)      Stop wasting my time on the today show playing fake hurt; you are sorry you got caught not sorry you said it! (I would rather watch Kathy and Hoda get drunk than watch you waste my time apologizing )
2)      Your crab cakes are nasty (if I wanted to eat flour I would have ordered a sandwich )
3)      If you are really sorry insure every person who works for you has access to affordable health insurance
4)      You will still be rich after your apology tour is over
5)      Stop saying the word Nigger in the privacy of your home (I know what you do)
6)      If you are really sorry go feed all those homeless people in downtown Savannah
7)      Don’t you dare make mention to hip hop as an excuse to why you say and do what you do
You are old enough to be their grandmother and great grandmother and you were 20 years ago as well
8)      Any good lawyer would have told you to settle the lawsuit my suggestion is pay her whatever she wants
9)      Be a better person
10)   Just like that black man who secures you, I am also to dark to be seen against that board so this is me coming into the light. Would you care to join me?

The following opinions are my own and are by no way a reflection of the views of all mocha flavored people. I thank God for halogen lights so you can see my mahogany skin at night.  

Sunday, April 28, 2013

The misappropriation of ministry


The misappropriation of ministry  
Kathryn Johnston, 92, was shot and killed on the night of Nov. 21, 2006, when a group of undercover Atlanta police detectives on an illegal drug raid forced their way into her home and she fired a warning shot at them.
     
     I remember that night very well thinking of the horror that the family must be experiencing as their 92 year old mother and grandmother was struck down at the hands of rouge, hasty group of Atlanta police officers who under unverified information administered a no knock warrant, which prompted Ms. Johnston to fire a single warning shot. Ms. Johnston was shot several times, reviving themes of systemic injustice in the hearts of Atlanta residents. I remember feeling like we should rally to bring to light this injustice. I was relieved that the very next day I saw the Rev. Markel Hutchinson standing in the families’ stead crying aloud, being a voice of justice. I remember watching over the next few months as he was interviewed by various media outlets declaring the injustice of the “no knock warrant” .
            He took the appeal of the Johnston family all the way to the steps of congress. I felt strengthened, encouraged, empowered to speak out against injustice everywhere.  Then it happened, I should have known that It would happen, I should have known it was too good to be true. The family was awarded 4.9 million dollars from the city of Atlanta. And what do you know the Good reverend came a calling for his cut. He took the family of Kathryn Johnston to court under the guises that he had a verbal contract with the family for 10 percent of whatever they received in restitution.
            I was simply astounded that this preacher would actually charge the family for using him as spokesperson. I was disgusted that this idiot would bring shame to the ministry by taking the family to court over a “verbal “contract.  How could a person who declares that he has been called to set the captive free, charge people who really needed help. I was perplexed three years ago when I heard he was actually taking the family to court.
            Now let me be clear I am all for ministers being paid for ministry, anybody who is not sure that ministry is a full time job is welcome to join me at my ministry context for a week. Ministry is a full time job and its ministers should be compensated to reflect that reality.  However, the audacity that he would actually charge the family for ministry services is beyond me.
             In the AME Zion Book of Discipline it encourages its preachers to always be employed and never be triflingly employed.  This idea is important as we navigate between that which challenges the boundaries of Christianity and that which perverted Christian light message of positivism and prosperity.  So just in case we have all drank the kool aid let me uplift a few areas in which Hutchinson misappropriated the ministry of our Lord Jesus Christ.
1)    Channeling the justice ethic for personal gain
a.    Justice is free! Point blank period. it is an innate human right and all those who seek to make a profit are pawns to the system that they seek to reform.
2)    Christians do the majority of their fighting on the altar; not before the judge.
a.    This was not an attempt to recoup lost wages this was an attempt by a delusional preacher to get monetarily broke off, he saw dollar signs all over this human tragedy.
3)    If there was an agreement in place both sides should have upheld the agreement and if the family decided not to pay Rev. Hutchinson than he should have walked.
a.    Plain and simple if they receive you not you dust off your feet and move on. Hutchinson played himself when he attempted to use the media to shame the family and recoup his lost income.  Any preacher congregation who invites him in is setting themselves up he is a shyster!
4)    Ministry is not a hustle
a.    Pimping ministry to; build buildings we don’t need,  offerings that are not used to uplift the kingdom, and where we create idols of ministers is not indicative of the ethic of Jesus Christ.
5)    What would Jesus do?
a.    I wonder did the “good reverend” even consider would Jesus even do this?  does this represent what Jesus was even abt ?

I’m highly concerned that this delusional preacher would attempt to hijack the legacy of the civil rights movement and turn it into a den of thieves. In church we often are alarmed at the salaciousness of sexual misdoings. I’m reminded by the scripture that Jesus was enraged by the money changers in the temple not by the woman at the well. I’m getting the impression that we care more about the gospel of gossip rather than the gospel of Jesus Christ reconciliation OVER financial remuneration.  The scriptures declare that Jesus has a true concern for the misappropriation of funds under the auspices of Christian ministry. The bastardization of Christian ministry occurs when we fall in love with the thing God hates. Our ministry must be one of salvation and liberation through Jesus Christ, NOT profit for the prophets. At the end of the day justice has been lost ; even if the family recoups money for the loss of the matriarch , when a brother sues another brother we break covenant and destroy relationship. Tikkun olam is the Hebrew phrase for healing the world; love and justice heals the word not profit!

 

1)    I mean every word of it 2) this is a clear sign that ministry is being done as a hustle 3) this made the Creator weep! 4) We could be free but my friends this might hurt a little.


So brother I hope you got your money because I’m quite sure that you have sold your soul! 

Monday, March 18, 2013

I dont look like what I've been through

We ministered this word at New Vision in Stone Mountain Georgia. This is for every person who has been kicked, cast out, and demonized. God is giving you the courage to recover in this hour!i dont look like what I've been through

Monday, February 25, 2013

Harper high school part 2

We pick up where we left off last week in our second hour of stories from Harper High School in Chicago. We find out if a shooting in the neighborhood will derail the school's Homecoming game and dance. We hear the origin story of one of Harper's more prominent gangs. And we ask a group of teenage boys: where do you get your guns? http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/488

Saturday, February 23, 2013

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

This American life concerning Chicago

We spent five months at Harper High School in Chicago, where last year alone 29 current and recent students were shot. 29. We went to get a sense of what it means to live in the midst of all this gun violence, how teens and adults navigate a world of funerals and Homecoming dances. We found so many incredible and surprising stories, this show is a two-parter; Part One airs this week, Part Two is next week. http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/487

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Cops: Man left toddler alone while he sold drugs

Cops: Man left toddler alone while he sold drugs

Sunday, February 17, 2013

It's true we all try

Watch "Frank Ocean - We All Try Official Video [Lyrics In Description]" on YouTube

More reasons to pee on a stick

Just when you have run out of reasons to pee on a stick.

Corruption scandal shocks, saddens metro law enforcement

Corruption scandal shocks, saddens metro law enforcement

Scandal....saints.....and scripture....



Every Thursday night at 10/9 central there is an event that sieges the minds of TV watchers everywhere. Every Thursday night that jewel of pop culture pervades our consciousness and gives us a 40 minute escape from reality. That’s right Thursday 10/9 central is Scandal time.  For my friends on the West coast I advise you to log off of social networking until the tidal wave of spoilers subsides.  Because when scandal is on we (the collective we) are watching it, and talking about it , and shocked by it.

Scandal is the latest show by Grey’s Anatomy creator Shonda Rhimes. You remember her, the mind behind Mc Dreamy and Mc Steamy.  Shonda Rhimes who battles back the maelstrom of misogyny and chauvinism in television, with her own personal brand of masculine objectification with a bit of feminist theory. In Shonda’s world you better hold on to your seat because what’s up is definitely down and down is up.   She paints her characters in broad brush strokes of moral turpitude, that more resemble our lives than the leave it beaverism that is laser etched in our minds as the ideal family dynamic.  Shondas characters are lush with character flaws; from the idealistic Mc Dreamy who has an affair with his later wife Meredith Grey to Mark Sloan who is the consummate philanderer who’s tryst are pleas for family and structure.  In Shondas world nothing is quite as simple as we would like It to be. There is never JUST a boy meet girl, they get married, 2.5 children later all is well in smurf village.  Sub textually there is always a high level of complexity both morally and emotionally.  We connect with her characters because they are dysfunctional. They are mirrors to a collective social brokenness that we experiences as we stubble through the ups and downs of life.  Shonda has little to no interest in maintaining the illusion of the rules just because we have fallen in love with illusion.  Enter her latest cluster bomb of angst and sociological dysfunction wrapped in winter white and lip quivers Ms. Oliva Pope.

Olivia Pope is the Managing Partner of Olivia Pope Associates. She specializes in “fixing” which is a combination of public relations management and legal slight of hand.  Her clients range from congressmen to world leaders.  All darken Ms. Winter White’s doorstep with a plethora of political and social catastrophes from sex scandals to babies in boxes.  In the tradition of Rhimes characterization the episode plot only goes to teach greater lessons to the core characters. Behind the episode plot is a series or season arc that drives the greater Show narrative. And while as viewers we bite for the episodes we fall hook line and sinker for the salaciousness of Olivia Pope and her affair with the married President of the United States Fitzgerald Grant. Every Thursday with tiptoe anticipation we wait to see if this is the Thursday that Fitz and Olivia finally becomes each other’s lobster (see Phoebe from Friends for lobster reference).  However, no matter how hard they try the just can’t seem to get right.  It would probably be better for them to live on opposite coasts because their private parts seem to keep bumping up against each other.  Seems as if Olivia and Fitzgerald have what we in the church call a soul tie. A sort of longing for one another that is not quelled by time or distance.   I remember in undergrad everybody had a “soul tie”, aka….having unprotected unmarried sex, I’m from Tuscaloosa, Alabama so we just call it bumping uglies.  And as much as we try to explain and give rationale to that which is occurring most times if we were to take our “Soul tie” to meet our mothers and fathers the instant illusion of sensual seduction would be evaporated and we would have our coyote ugly moment and try to chew off our arm to get out of sexual relationship that is doomed to give us unquenchable heartbreak. Such is the case of Olivia Pope, Fitzgerald and Scandal it can only end poorly. Regardless of how many fairy tales we read the princess still has to find her own way out of her sociologically imposed prison of modernity.  In the words of the indomitable Tina Turner, Olivia Pope “Don’t need another hero”.  Yet she spins her wheels and drops her draws at the mention of “Mr. President”.  Or is it that Shonda has flipped our world again and Olivia is really the Dj on the 1’s and 2’s of the mixtape known as the Grant presidency?  For no matter how much he tries it seems that Olivia knows how to actually get the president to act presidential.  Who is really running who? And every Thursday 10/9 central we gathers around our LCD teleporters and travel to Shonda Land where bright eyed bushy tail black girls and idealistic ivy league white boys hook up and give us Friday morning water cooler fodder in the name of post racial popcorn drama.  ( hear the sarcasm in my voice)

More ironic than the plot itself is the viewership.  Scandal is overwhelming viewed by African Americans 25-45 who attend some form of religious gathering at least once a week.  The black church has traditionally been socially liberal but sexually conservative which begs the question, why Scandal?  Every Sunday we are plunged beneath the mono myth that morally upright individuals may be able to overcome overwhelming evil by virtue of their character.  And we are wound up into an emotional frenzy that usurps the power of object of the anthropological experience to trust in the power of God to fix whatever we are in, as my granny use to say the “wont he will”.  The” wont he will” is a magical emotional place that only seems to reveal itself after you have done all you can, spent all you had, and cried all your tears.  “The wont he will” is a confidence in the perseverance of the future or as Niebuhr would put it “Hope”.  The “won’t he will” is the confidence that our God is still working on our condition in the midst of our catastrophes.   Won’t he will = Will not he do it. This is a declaration of experience saturated in the revelation of the divine.  Will he not fight our battles? Yes he will.  Will he not make our enemies our footstools? Yes he will. Will he not heal our bodies? Yes he will. There seems to be a misappropriation of the word “not” in the sentence but that’s the secret sauce of the “won’t he will “it defies negativity and inspires the hope of the Saints.   Still doesn't explain why saints like Scandal or does it?

Maybe our addiction to scandal is nestled into the very fiber of Theodicy and Theophany itself.  In our searching of scripture we look for answers to find the movement of God as well as how God confronts evil in our experience. And through the biblical text we find examples of thoroughly flawed individuals who like Ms. Olivia Pope persist in spite of deterrence.  The more flawed the character the greater that we cheer for them.  Because in the seat of our greatest character flaws is still operating that “wont he will” principal that defies conventional knowledge and dares to believe that greater is coming later.  We go to the scripture looking to identify with the circumstances of the Saints gone by. We open the text to find our struggles mimicked in the emotional marketplace of Matriarchs and Patriarchs gone by. We crack the cacophony of scriptures seeking solution for our day to day “scandals” and we find our “wont he will” moments.  What makes scripture speak to us is not the fact that moral imperatives and virtue abounds but rather that severely broken people are still; used, loved and affirmed by a virtuous God.  Not only does he use and love them but he purposes their character defects as a cauldron process in order to refine them. In other words what should work against them is working for them.  Hidden in the struggle of scripture is the revelation of identity the moment when obstacle reveals epiphany and theophany.

What else do we see in scripture?  For lack of a better word we see scandal.  The Bible is a book full of booty calls, and broken hearts told with a candy coated moral center.

  There once was a man who had too much fun at his bachelor party so involved with entertaining other guest that he paid no attention to his wife. When it was time to lay it down for the night he found her in the arms of the best man.  Get got so mad that he committed a drive by beating and killed thirty men.  The aforementioned is not the plot to a Hughes brothers film but rather the beginning salvo of the story of Samson. The saints have an intimate relationship with this idea of scandal.   Scandal is the black sheep of our theological family.  Scandal is the twisted back story to our salvific success. Scandal is the pit to our pneumatological plum. As quite as kept scandal is part of the equation that is Romans 8 :28 , in the tradition of FF Bruce “to those who love Christ All things (scandal) works together for the good.” Yes even our scandals.  This is not an admonition to go find some drama, you have enough as it stands but rather a call to look for the Theophany in your own experience. Where has God shown himself to be God.    And the moment when God took out scandal and made it into our success.
Another Aspect of the idea of scandal as it relates to scripture is the idea of craftiness being a virtue rather than a vice.  The idea of craftiness or cleverness as an intellectual pursuit is the “God in the Machine” moment of our experiences . Understanding the sociological origins of the Biblical text yields illumination to the way that voices are heard through the text.  The bible as a collection of wisdom stories is collected by a people who are always outnumbered, out gunned, and out manned. And in spite of their captivity, geographic dislocation, and social status (God chosen people were a kind of historical misfits) they find ways to win. Again these same rhythms are mimicked in the plot lines of Pope and Associates. They are always fighting opponents bigger faster stronger but they always find a way to win not through strength but through intellect.
There was a lady whose husbands dies and she is left all alone his brother prey’s on her and takes her time of mourning to his advantage creates a jump off situation cause he want the booty but not the duty.  The woman become so out of sorts that she finds herself selling all she got to get by. One day her father in law wants to see somebody do something strange for some change so he solicits her services. And when the morning comes he wants to pull a shaggy and say it wasn’t me. But sister girl put that thang thang on him and he forgot his identification in the room. And when he tried to say the baby was not his she replies “I got the evidence”.  This is not story from the scandal writer’s room but rather story of Tamar (not Braxton) from Genesis.  Judah’s response was that what she did was right and that he was wrong.  Cleverness, craftiness in seeing a dire situation in new lights is integral to theophany or seeing God in our situation.    Yes the saints have a fond fellowship with scandal.
The Saints love scandal because it allows us to low key work out some recurring plot lines in our own lives. Places where we have not used wisdom but should have.  Places where we lost ourselves in server closets and oval offices.  Places where we dropped our draws and lost our heads over a little tail.  Moreover, scandal is a proxy for some places in our lives where we still need a win.  We still need victory over some enemies who have scandalized our names.  We need Closure with the J Babies of our lives. We need release from the Fitzgerald’s of our experience.   We need deliverance from our Stevie J’s. We need to have some people “Hucked” off of us so we can reclaim identity.  But Most of all we need some therapy so we can welcome some healthy relationships in our existence and escape our dependence on people who mean us no good. 
For those of us who have escaped the scandal bug, God bless you and your virtue but be kind to those who like to take little field trips to Shondaland and get our escape on. I would rather watch a scandal than be a scandal, and if I ever find myself to be in a scandal I would hope that “Saints” could remember that a few episodes ago what is currently me used to be them.  
But you know that might hurt a little.

Miss you all see you after lent Solomon!

Pray works

Somebody should shout right now!!! Won't he give you double for your trouble. Won't he make your enemies your footstool .won't he will!....

Sunday, February 3, 2013

One more reason to say thank you

     Gratitude is a powerful gift. It takes very little to receive but giving requires a special kind of revelation and insight.  In our time together we look at the condition of gratitude and grace in the lives of the ten lepers. How can some take the benefit of benevolent blessings and fail to even bat and eye, while others receive the blessings of God and are driven to worship? This is a tension that we live with in out everyday lives between recognizing the blessings of God and our response as being the benefactors of being blessed. My prayer is that something might be said that evokes and inspires the sentiment that after we have counted all of our blessings that we have one more thing to say thank you for. One more reason to say thank you

Thursday, January 31, 2013

Ministry with pre existing conditions

Sometimes if feels like the very place that should be open to dealing with our issues is the one place afraid to touch them. Every person is going to have issues that they bring to God and that they are going to have to deal with in their walk with God. However, your pre existing condition should never prevent your progress. In our time together i hope to encourage you to press until you get the healing that you came for . We preached this sermon in Montgomery Alabama i hope your blessed  Ministry with pre existing conditions

A purpose driven man

What does my purpose look like ? we all come to life and livining with the anxiety of unfullied purpose. in our time together we seek to unmask the framework of purpose and uplift some purpose driven traits. As we look at the story of Samson my prayer is that the lenses of purpose give you a new perspective to view your situation.  This is a word that we shared in rome Georgia. I hope you are blessed   A purpose driven man

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

mutant ministry


Christian entertainment is a cottage industry that is a veritable billion dollar enterprise. The Christian entertainment realm includes gospel music cd’s, inspirational books, concerts, church conferences (mega or otherwise) and gospel getaways/cruises. These Para church gatherings are not a bad thing in and of themselves; I know many people who come to know God in a deeper way because of these events and ministry tools. I think that these are important supplements to our spiritual regime. But just as you would never attempt to live off of vitamins it is problematic to attempt to live off you’re the aforementioned spiritual supplements. You need a diet first then you can supplement the diet in order to strengthen the body.  We have usurped the diet and began to draw directly from the spiritual supplements that were never intended to be source but rather resource. God bless Oprah’s choux pastry heart but all the super soul Sunday in the world aint gonna help you if you first don’t get the soul right first.

     The institution is partly to blame; the church became disconnected and disenchanted with itself and its mission to the world. The church institution has fallen out of love with the world that it was designed to save. The check on the church has been one of failing to corporately acknowledge its failings and revise its methods to interact with the world at large. The message is complete, God is love and be transformed by that love, but the messengers are distracted. 
      How have the messengers become distracted?  We turned an open invitation to change into a show to be entertained. It's what I like to call the message of being a church dude. The message of being a church dude is simple “you came here to see me and here I am ". It’s not just men it’s the prevailing church culture; who has the most stylish preacher, best choir, best hair and nails, biggest hat, best musicians, who can give you the best bump (dance), and who looks the best. Frankly, I’m exhausted, church dudes kill me. It’s a whole lot of pomp and circumstance with NO substance.  I have not seen so many horn rimmed glasses in church since the late sixties (only through pictures cause I’m an eighties baby). The appeal for church dudes to even come to church is not development, improvement or transformation but rather it’s almost a sick fraternal order where an ultra-emotional existential experience may be sought that tickles the fancy but drops the believer back to a faithless existence. This fraternal group of believers is hyper flamboyant without the penchant of dignity or humility.  Church dudes are a danger because they tout this message that sounds just enough like the gospel to pass but ultimately devoid of any subsequent action that is literally the fruit of that gospel.  Where is the fruit of service that comes with the gospel? There is a strange spirit around choirs, praise teams, soloist, musicians and the like that suggest that ministry is all exhibition. The litmus test of church dudes is they show up for the performance but can’t make it to bible study. Church dudes can make it to the conferences but can’t seem to make prayer. Church dudes can make worship but can’t seem to make much else. 
           

The service element of church has been totally divorced from their experience. Church dudes would not have fared well being disciples of Jesus, he would have sent them back home because they love the show more than the substance of Christ.  Christ would have a difficult time making them disciples because they don’t show up unless they are on program to be seen.  Again this is not a designation for just men this is a specification for a sect of church attendees who have little to no desire to take part in the mission of Christ.  The members of this sect are addicted to the uplifted hand (seeking to receive) rather than the outstretched hand seeking to give.  Church in the minds of Church dudes should; GIVE me a feeling, I should RECEIVE a word, and I should leave AFFIRMED. This mutant form of Christianity ties whatever giving that might occur to a trigger mechanism that comes after the giving that would cause the giver to get. There is NO cross at the heart of their faith system.  The faith system, as a matter of fact, goes out of its way to never talk about the sacrifice of crucifixion at all.   The faith system then goes on to postulate that the ultimate enemy of the believer is not sin(cause who needs sin hanging over their heads) , but the enemy of the believer is the mythological hater who floats around like a wraith seeking to hijack our terrestrial experience by sabotaging what we were divinely designed to do. When we move our battle from the confines of the pneumatological to the anthropological, our worldview become myopic and we become the center.  Who is really hating on us? Have we become so narcissistic to believe that people are actually going home and thinking about us after we leave their presence ?  Scarier still is that fact that you believe that you have done something revolutionary enough to merit such concern.  Maybe just maybe all that shade that you seem to be receiving is just a culmination of all the shade that you have been giving others.

            Which leads me to another caveat of church dudes attitude. There is nothing like a Christian with attitude. A Christian with attitude is like going to the fridge and picking up a carton of milk taking a healthy pull, only to discover that the milk has spoiled.  Your expectation has been crushed and you can’t remove the taste from your mouth. The world needs Christians who are over themselves. Christians who don’t need titles to do ministry and who don’t think ministry involves a mic. The world is looking for Christians who have clean hearts and dirty hands.  The heart is ready to love and the hands have been sullied with the work of their Christ. The world needs Christians who are not Christ LITE, but rather Christ LIKE.  I cannot stress enough how awful Christians with bad attitudes are its false advertising. Now this is not a solicitation for the bright and shiny Joel Olsten’s of the world to rise up and make us all into Stepford wives. But nasty, immature, little Christians can be taken to the space ship and dropped off into the black hole; your disservice is no longer needed.  I would rather a person be straight up with their issues and say  “listen I’m working on my mouth, or my heart isn’t all together right” than give me that fake half love of Christ stuff.  Y'all know about that stuff the placating rub on the back with the Christian concern face. (I by the way have got a mean back rub granny taught me) 
             Church dudes are killing the church because the gospel of Jesus is not alive in their lives. But a mutant form of spiritualism is pervasive.  This is the mutated form of Christianity that is “spiritual” but not religious. The mutant courses through their veins and the bad news is the mutant is airborne and it is catching. The mutant loves to go to para church events but is highly allergic to the service of the church. The mutant loves the mic but breaks out in hives with authentic ministry moments. The mutant is allergic to service because service would expose the weakness of its witness.  The mutant does not reveal identity but replicates fragility.  The mutant does not want Christianity because that would require obedience to Christ. The mutant wants the shakes and shivers without the service and sacrifice. Yes dear hearts the word is still true “to live is Christ and to die is gain” the commitment still requires sacrifice. However the gospel of mutant Christians would suggest that we need to “go back to Eden and live on top of the world” ironically Christ ministered to the disenfranchised first and chose to live on the bottom rather than the top. Spectacularly enough Christ changes the world from the bottom up. This debunks the myth of the mutant that “I can’t help nobody if I can’t help myself”  the mutant acquires more only to keep more, Christ Borrowed two fish and five loafs and broke what he had and found the power of multiplication not in hoarding but in helping. The mutant wants to be seen, Jesus has to ask “who do men say I am?” he will be recognized by what he does not what he wears.  The mutant is constantly in a search for identity, the master says “I am that I am”, his identity comes not from what church he has joined this year but the God he has joined in this life. The mutant is lost in self-aggrandizement; the master was never lost to begin with.  The mutant wants duplicates, the master wants disciples.
            For those of us who believe that we have overcome the mutant allow me to further extent this metaphor. The Mutant speaks the language of legalism rather than the language of relationship. The mutant loves judgment and scandal because it further perpetuates the uniqueness of its own abnormality. The mutant loves topics like abortion because it’s a place of high contention where it can spread its virus. It loves the divisiveness of sexuality and sensuality because that’s where the scandal lives. It loves racism and sexism because quite as kept the mutant loves oppression.  The mutant loves these areas because the mutant knows that Christians who have been changed will not let any point of disagreement separate them in love.  The mutant exacerbates the speck in our neighbor’s eye blocking our view of the plank in our own eye.  How do will kill the mutant?  My suggestions
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Hard dose of anti me medication make community more important than yourself
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  Get out of survival mode, scared to risk, scared to attempt, and scared to try different things.
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  Every vision for the church should not include a new building without envisioning a new way for community to take root. Especially when you are under-utilizing current facilities
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Service requirements you love to sing/preach great….now I want to know can you serve?
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   Professional Counseling … I cannot tell you how many of us are suffering from severe narcissistic disorder, I am Not laughing.

Maybe if we stopped getting high off of our own supply we could get back to changing the world. But that might hurt a little…


Thursday, January 24, 2013

Moving to celebration


I preached this sermon on Christmas Day At Beautiful Zion A.M.E Zion Church.  In every life we all move through seasons of transition. These transitions take place for a myriad of reasons. In our time together i simply wanted to lift up how Mary was able to navigate the dynamic changes in her life and move from anxiety to exhilaration. take a listen i hope your blessed.Moving To Celebration

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Sir Please step away from the rubber duck



      At this point in our collective human experience I am flabbergasted. We seem to have reached a zenith of stupidity, better than a zenith a reality shaking paradigm collapse.  We have reached that point because we simply are not thinking. Collectively we kinda shut down. Lance Armstrong decided to tell the truth, and  Manti Te'o decided to catfish the world and kill of his fake girlfriend.  I mean really, we have entered a social intellectual space where we commit violence against women who never existed in the first place?   And if the assassination of fake girlfriends was not enough, (its more than enough for me in a single week), we have preachers taking baths with their granddaughters. 

Please understand, I think that have grandparents are God’s built-in support system for raising children in the village ethic. Grandparents understand the parental value set and have special bonds with their grandchildren.  Grandparents are good for instruction, deliberation, and affirmation. Grandparents have enough skin in the game to care but not so much that they stifle identity. It makes them wonderful places to receive additional love and support. Got the warm and fuzzzies yet ?

With the aforementioned being stated, get the heck out of the bath tub with your granddaughters.  As a minister I am keenly aware of my interactions with the opposite sex, you have to be it’s the time that we live in. when I counsel doors stay opened or another female minister is present in the room for the duration of the counseling. I have mastered the side hug and the shake your hand like a man for women. I do these things because I am aware of how preachers can look even when trying to be open and authentic. When a family comes to church I greet the husband first acknowledging that I recognize his presence and importance in the family system. If the husband does not come to church I ask about him EVERY Sunday. Again to acknowledge the fact that there may be a point of discomfort in the interaction.   My goal is to be approachable, warm and inviting and in that same action subtly establishing boundaries. Usually it works… usually, it was this one time a dude kissed me on the cheek , (he kinda snuck me , I was fire hot , I just don’t like being kissed by dudes) for another time.  

I can imagine what the preacher was thinking as his granddaughter wanted to take a bath with pop pop. “hey this is my little bear and I love her with my whole heart” so yeah jump on in.  NO, this is not ok , it’s not cool.  First think of what your granddaughter is going to say afterward,  “oh I bathe with pop pop” , the teacher exclaims “oh” runs to teachers’ lounge calls DHR and you go to jail do not pass go do not collect a 100 dollars.  I’m not talking , I stole billions of dollars AIG jail (by the way no one has gone to jail for the theft of America) I'm talking OZ adebisi , imma meet you in the shower, did u drop that jail. And you a preacher… bruh, that’s not a good look.

Seemingly harmless actions can have unexpected consequences.  More than that when you fail to think about the impact that your actions might have you are making a plan to fail.  But let’s look at it from another perspective nowhere in your mind are u thinking that this looks pervy , you’re a 60+ bishop taking a bath with your granddaughter . And not one moment do you step back and say “wayment” something aint right here.  You never stop to think, with the churches current struggles with sexual abuse that this is probably not what I need to be doing cause it just looks bad.  The fact that this was overlooked is troubling and shows a lack of godly judgment. This is one of those shun the very appearance of evil things. Kinda like I can do evangelism in the strip club but it’s probably better if I didn't.  

But I don’t just blame the bishop. I blame whoever took the picture and whoever posted it to Facebook. Come on yall help the Bishop out who in his circle says “oh bishop its ok, you cool, post the bath time picture on Facebook” It speaks to the kind of people you have following you when nobody speaks up and will give you sound counsel.  Clearly this is a case of the emperor has no clothes and his people are content to let the man walk down the street butt naked and be embarrassed.

It speaks to the need for ministers in this highly sexual climate to think about how things look. Our intent may not be to create a scandal but we can’t just think of what we do from the warm and cozy Jesus loves everybody room of life.  We live in a world with some sick people and we cannot afford to be numbered as being morally deprived just because we forgot to put on our thinking caps.  So a bit of advice, one stop laying on people cause it’s time for their ordination, you can ordain people with your hands. It is not necessary to belly flop ordain people. Two, get out of the bath tub with your grand-kids it just looks wrong. Three stop taking boys on trips with you (you are not a mentor you’re a pedophile).  Four, If you need that much security you probably need to take a sabbatical.  Five Stop speaking in tongues on twitter it looks like you having a seizure on the keypad. Six, Get rid of two of your yes men and find some people to encourage you who don’t need anything from you and whom you cannot do anything for.   And for Pete sake get out of the darn bathtub who are you B. Slade???

But remember all of the aforementioned might hurt a little.

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Christology in context and in crisis


Christology is the pursuit to understand and reclaim the person, pneumatology, and purpose of Jesus as a messianic device. The idea of Jesus as a messianic device is important as a deus ex machina of the anthropological snare of substitutionary atonement. This atonement type suggests that Jesus serves as a replacement /substitute for sinful fallen man.   Jesus takes not only place But bears the weight of sin in the stead of humanity.
     Christology in this light places Jesus as the ultimate foil to sin and sinfulness. Jesus us the ultimate foil because he is man enough to feel and yet God enough to heal. Jesus is the ultimate foil because he is man enough to see and yet God enough to save. He is the ultimate foil because he is man enough to suffer and yet God enough to suffice.  Jesus is deus ex machina ,or God in the machine.  Jesus solves the problem that was too big too bold and too bad for us to solve alone. Jesus is the answer to the unsolvable problem that rest in the fabric of man.
     The problem is how can a holy God love sinful man? This problem is solved through the reconciliation of man through Jesus Christ unto God.  Jesus exchanges and interposes himself for us in order to transform us.  The enemy of freedom is defeated not through violence but through sacrificial love.  Jesus becomes that which we cannot bear to birth that which we must become. James Allison calls this sacrificial love the exposition of violence.
     But what happens when we subvert the identity of Jesus? What happens when we live in a culture where everybody is ok?  What happens when Jesus is reduced to a motivational marionette? We reduce his life to cannon fodder in context and catastrophe in praxis. We preach the gospel as if we are theological snake oil salesmen pushing an existential experience that makes us feel good but rarely causes us to actually be good.   This experience can’t be stamped with the label of worship because nothing is surrendered. Worship will cost you but playing worship will exhaust you.   We play musical chairs with membership moving our affiliation when we lose that special feeling. We fall in and out of love with preachers like newly minted American idol contestants.  And we drop doctrines faster Kim drop Kris only to get Kanye.
  
    This is not to say that church should be boring or dry.   I like engaging preaching, the rhythm and artistry captured in the exchange between preacher and congregation. But I am not a fan of life coaches, motivational Muppets or prophets for profit.  Preach a word if you’re gonna preach, I don't need the first three chapters of from "Good to Great", can do without delusional relationship advice from people who have no empirical data, oh and miss me with the thinking like a man. We have hustled the Gospel of Jesus Christ unto no end.  In our attempt to make Christ fit culture we have lost the revelation that Christ recreates culture. Jesus takes a blind man that found himself on the fringes of society and re-introduces him, not as a seeing blind man, but as an avatar for liberation through revelation. The blind man sees clearly but his first vision is Jesus. The sighted blind man cannot return to nomenclature because the blind man who now sees, understands what the modern reader misses, Christ is not a captive to the rules of the machine he is the key to escape the machine.  Christ does not twist and cajole himself to the pressures of culture he reaches into culture and reworks what culture could be.
          Christology is in crisis because “give me Jesus” no longer satiates the pallets of his followers. And why should it when we replace Jesus with “mo money mo money mo money”?   Christology is in crisis because instead of looking for a savior we don’t even think we need to be saved. And if we don’t need to be saved surely we don’t need to be led. And if we don’t need to be led than what exactly are we following?   The never ending cycle of self-satisfaction tells us that if we buy more we will love ourselves more and if I can just love me more than I will have the solution.  If I can just do more for myself I can finally be happy because I am the problem, oh but im also the solution.   Just one more pay raise will get me ten thousand square feet so I can put all those people who keep taking my happiness from me , on the other side of the house. Just one more car and then everybody can know im successful.  Just one more surgery and I can finally be happy with my face. Just one more relationship and all of my loneliness will just float away.  The solution for all of our ontological tension, I am happy to say, is just do more for you. Thousands of years of philosophical musings and thought for what marketers can show you in a thirty second infomercial.  
          My friends you are not the solution. Sorry! it pissed me off when I discovered that I am not the solution either. I so wanted to be the solution. I needed to be the solution. I dream at night about walking up to my problem and giving it a dragon upper cut (google it) just demolishing my problems because I’m the solution. I would be an awesome solution. (A guy has to dream)  It exhausts me to no end to keep digging inside myself for solutions that don’t answer my questions. The end of all my digging just creates more desperation, wanting and anxiety.     Where is Jesus ? Why can’t we see him ? Why won’t he heal us if he is here? We can’t see him because Jesus comes to give we follow him, but we come to take.  Jesus is not found in the act of taking in life he is found in the act of giving.  He gives his life away and we reduce his sacrifice to pitiful paltry punch line preaching. Jesus asks his disciples to give up everything and follow him but what does it cost to follow Jesus today?   Does it cost everything to follow Jesus today? Today is cost even more to follow Jesus because you have to actually try. Putting forth effort is so 1993.
          Please do not sell your cars, houses, or cash out your 401k and move to Middle America with a commune where you sell jam on the road side.  But learn your neighbor’s names. Don’t take to the streets with bullhorn telling people to repent for the “end is nigh”. Do take the time to say hello to people you pass in your goings and comings.  Don’t pull a “seven pounds” and donate all your organs while you are still using them. Do hold your neighbors hands. Don’t stop celebrating holidays cause now your too holy. Do celebrate every day because Now you serve a Holy God.  Don’t get all mystical and spooky, that’s just weird. Do talk to people, I mean really stop and talk, yes I mean those uncomfortable talks that exhaust you.  Give your life away.  Yes it’s uncomfortable, yes it’s exhausting, yes it’s a pain. But when you give a hug you get a hug. With each act of kindness we reclaim a little more of the face of Christ put enough acts together and we see him clearly to love him dearly. With each act of giving we see that God is not pulling a biosphere standing over us looking on our condition but doing nothing to help. God is deus ex machina , inside the machine with us pushing and pulling us. So give a little bit, but you know that might hurt a little.